10 Tips and Exercises on How to Keep Your Love

Love is beautiful, but it’s not always easy. In a world full of distractions, insecurities, and miscommunication, many relationships struggle to endure. One of the biggest issues tearing relationships apart is poor communication and lack of transparency. Add to that the deceptive thoughts the enemy sows into our minds, and it becomes clear why so many couples drift apart. But the good news is this: true love is possible—and it starts with God. It’s called Agape Love.

Let’s dive into 10 practical tips and exercises, grounded in Biblical truth, that can help you keep and strengthen your love.

1. Start with God: Love Begins with Agape

Agape love is the highest form of love—selfless, unconditional, and divine. It is God’s love for us, and the kind of love we should strive to reflect in our relationships.

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud." – 1 Corinthians 13:4

Exercise: Begin each day by praying for your relationship. Ask God to fill both you and your partner with His love.

2. Protect Your Mind: Don’t Entertain Negative Thoughts

The enemy often attacks us through our thoughts. It’s not the thought that’s the problem—it’s what we choose to do with it. We can’t control every thought that enters our mind, but we can control whether we dwell on it.

"...we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ." – 2 Corinthians 10:5

Exercise: Keep a thought journal. When a negative thought about your partner arises, write it down and counter it with truth and love.

3. Prioritize Communication and Transparency

Poor communication is like poison to a relationship. Lack of transparency builds walls and breeds distrust. True intimacy is built on openness.

"Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body." – Ephesians 4:25

Exercise: Set aside 15 minutes each day for a “Heart Talk.” No phones. Just the two of you sharing honestly about your day, feelings, and concerns.

4. Guard Your Heart and Thoughts

Your mind is powerful. It wants to make every thought you have feel valid—good or bad. For instance, if you think your partner might be cheating, your mind will seek evidence to support that—even if none exists. It’s vital to stay grounded in truth.

"For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." – Matthew 6:21

Exercise: Practice mindfulness. When a destructive thought pops up, ask: “Is this thought true, helpful, or necessary?” If not, let it go.

5. Be Happy as an Individual

Your partner isn’t responsible for your happiness. If you expect them to fill a void only God or your own self-awareness can fill, you’ll always be disappointed.

Exercise: Make a list of things that make you happy. Dedicate time each week to doing something from your list, alone or with your partner.

6. Create Spiritual Intimacy

Couples who pray together, grow together. Spiritual intimacy builds trust, vulnerability, and unity.

"Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." – Ecclesiastes 4:12

Exercise: Start a shared devotional. Read a passage and discuss it together. Pray together before bed or before meals.

7. Keep Romance Alive

It’s easy to get caught up in daily routines and forget to nurture the romantic side of your relationship. Romance isn’t just physical—it’s emotional connection and pursuit.

"Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—for your love is more delightful than wine." – Song of Solomon 1:2

Exercise: Plan surprise dates or love notes. Leave a sticky note on the mirror or sneak a sweet text during the day.

8. Forgive Quickly and Fully

Harboring resentment kills love. We all make mistakes. Love means choosing forgiveness—even when it’s hard.

"Bear with each other and forgive one another... Forgive as the Lord forgave you." – Colossians 3:13

Exercise: Create a “Forgiveness Jar.” When either of you forgives a wrong, write it down, put it in the jar, and let it go. Revisit it later to celebrate growth.

9. Show Love Through Actions

Words are important, but actions seal the deal. Let your partner feel your love through consistent, meaningful gestures.

"Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man." – Proverbs 3:3-4

Exercise: Discover each other’s love languages (words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, or physical touch) and act on them regularly.

10. Seek Wise Counsel and Keep Learning

There’s no shame in seeking help. Whether from a pastor, counselor, or mentor couple, having someone guide you through rough patches can be a game-changer.

"Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed." – Proverbs 15:22

Exercise: Attend a relationship workshop or read a Christian marriage book together. Apply the lessons and reflect on them.

Closing Thoughts: Love That Lasts

Love isn’t about perfection—it’s about effort, grace, and growing together through Christ. When we remember that true love starts with God and is sustained through faith, communication, and care, we create a strong foundation that can weather any storm.

So take these tips seriously. Don’t just read them—live them. Love is more than a feeling; it’s a decision, a commitment, and a reflection of God’s heart.

Have any of these tips helped you or made you think differently about love? Share your thoughts, experiences, or favorite Bible verses on love.

And don’t forget to check out our Free Love Contracts—beautifully designed relationship agreements that help couples stay aligned on communication, forgiveness, romance, spiritual growth, and more. They’re fun, faith-filled tools that can help keep your love strong and focused on what matters most.

Let’s build a community of encouragement and wisdom. Remember, real love starts with God. Embrace Agape. Keep your love strong.